Why Making Mistakes Should Be Desirable? As humans, we naturally dislike making mistakes. When they happen, we often get frustrated and critical of ourselves. This is especially true for singers, musicians, and artists, who may feel more emotionally connected to their work. The reason is simple: we deeply identify with our voices, music, and creativity. However, mistakes are an essential part of learning.
To achieve something new, we must leave our comfort zones. This is where we gain new skills, grow stronger, and improve. The process rewires the brain, forming new neural connections—a phenomenon called "brain plasticity," or the brain's ability to adapt to experiences (as explained by neuroscientist Michael Merzenich). Mistakes act as markers, guiding us toward growth and improvement. In fact, making mistakes is one of the most effective ways to learn.
The Emotion Behind Mistakes.
Our brains are wired to avoid danger and discomfort. The amygdala, the part of the brain responsible for processing emotions like fear, plays a significant role in our aversion to mistakes. This response, known as "fight or flight," evolved to protect us from threats. While helpful for survival, it can hinder learning when applied to creative endeavors, like mastering a new song.
So, what kind of fear arises when we make mistakes?
Fear of Failure: We worry that mistakes equate to failure.
Fear of Judgment: We fear how others might perceive us.
Fear of Imperfection: Artists often hold themselves to impossibly high standards (Wendy Parr).
Fear of the Unknown: Trying something new can feel intimidating.
Fear of Damaged Self-Image: Mistakes can feel like threats to our identity.
The Inner Critic
At the root of these fears lies the inner critic - the voice that whispers, "What if I forget my lyrics?" or "What will people think if I mess up?" This inner voice reflects our desire to belong, to feel accepted and valued. We worry that mistakes might jeopardize that acceptance.
But creativity should be a safe space for expression, vulnerability, and growth. It’s the one area where mistakes should be welcomed, not feared.
Doing Difficult Things Makes Us Stronger
Mistakes are golden opportunities - feedback that helps us grow. Every great artist has made mistakes while learning. The key is to see them as stepping stones toward improvement.
Great singers and musicians embrace mistakes as part of the process. They experiment and explore new ideas, knowing that creativity thrives on trial and error. When mistakes happen, consciously analyze them:
What caused it?
How can I use it to improve?
For example, if a high note sounds strained, stop and ask yourself:
Am I using too much air?
Am I too tense?
Then adjust by relaxing your neck, softening your jaw, or managing your breath. With practice, you'll better understand your voice and how to refine it.
Focus on Progress, Not Perfection
Progress, not perfection, should be the goal. Pay attention to your body, listen to your sound, and focus on what you can control. Preparation is one thing you can manage - think about why you’re performing and let your voice express that purpose. Aim to connect with your audience and enjoy the process of sharing your music.
Strategies for Dealing with Mistakes During Live Performances
During live performances, shift your focus from yourself to your audience. They came to enjoy the music and the experience - not to scrutinize every note. Most people won't even notice small mistakes; they’re there for the emotion and atmosphere you create.
If you make a mistake:
Let it go. Don’t dwell on it.
Refocus. Channel your energy into delivering a passionate performance.
Reflect later. After the show, analyze the mistake and work on it if necessary.
Your audience values the authenticity and connection you bring more than perfection.
Striving for perfection can hold us back from learning and growing. Embrace mistakes as part of the journey to mastery. Focus on progress and the joy of improvement, as Marie Forleo advises. Over time, the challenges that once seemed insurmountable will feel natural, and your confidence will flourish. This is how artists evolve.
Quotes to Inspire You: Why Making Mistakes Should Be Desirable.
"If you are not prepared to be wrong, you will never come up with anything original." – Ken Robinson
"The hardest student to teach is the one most afraid of making mistakes." – John Henny
"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." – Thomas Edison
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